DON’T LET HER TURN INTO LITTLE MISS PERFECT
Little Miss Perfect’s exam results are as glossy as her appearance. She is polite, responsible, loved by teachers and with a social life to match.
This public veneer of a ‘good girl’ can come at a high cost to a girl’s real self-esteem. If she is obsessed with how she appears to the world, she has no space to work out her own wants and needs. So stop reinforcing by praising her for being ‘good’. Tell her that you’d rather see her authentic, imperfect self than an image constructed to please others. Point out that by seeking perfection in everything, she will always feel like a failure.
Extract: Girls Uninterrupted, by Tanith Carey.
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