I am not a person that gets stressed or overwhelmed easily or very often. I take on as much as I can, and then some more. Often too much, but I do it anyway.
‘get an au pair’
Up until we moved to Sydney, life was busy of course with young kids and a baby in the house.
“Moving to Sydney” I said, “that will be the easiest move we have ever done.”
I severely underestimated how much more there would be to juggle. Not just one, but 2 new schools, 2 new sets of parents to meet, 2 lots of new friends to make. An actual toddler who actually needs stimulating ALL THE TIME. Hubbies work, and of course Organised Chaos, and then there are the visitors. So far in the 6 months we have been in Sydney we have had 10 people stay with us (well actually 13 but the extra 3 was only 1 night).. and another 5 people due over the next 6 weeks…. and yes I do go out and do things with them MOST OF THE TIME.
‘get an au pair’
I am not silly enough to think I can do this all myself. I am lucky enough to have a cleaner, and a housekeeper sometimes and babysitters whenever we need them.
But still as every week goes by it gets harder and harder to keep up with it all. The ship was slowing sinking.
‘get an au pair’
I was glad to finally stop for a few days in Bali, and reassess. I realised that things couldn’t go on the way there were – something had to give. The obvious choices – Organised Chaos, my social life and my sport/fitness… and then I would be stuck with child rearing and being the good wife.. and that would leave me a little one-dimensional don’t you think?
So I realised, there was only one thing I could do. Get an Au Pair.
Hubby had been saying to me over and over since the beginning of the year ‘get an au pair’ I refused to consider it, as I like my own space. We did have a maid for 5 years when we lived in Asia, but she was live out.
Once I finally made the decision, I actually became excited. I had an answer. I could do everything. My only compromise is that I would have another person living in our house. Hmm.
I think it will be worth it, correction… I hope it will be worth it.
Some of the key reasons that changed my mind.
- I was borderline overwhelmed with everything (any day I was going to fall in a heap)
- My house is/was constantly a mess (so much so that a friend who visited said “oh I wish I could come and stay with you for a week to help you get organised).
- I have never been this dis-organised, EVER.
- The kids would benefit from having 1 babysitter 99% of the time (especially the 2 year old who needs some consistency).
- With no family around to help us out, it would be really nice for the kids to have an ‘older sister’ figure in the house.
- Greg and I never have any time to ourselves… going for a walk together after the kids are in bed at night will be unreal.
- It will be fun for the children to learn first hand about another culture.
- Life will be soooo much easier. Less to juggle.
It is only for 6 months.. if it doesn’t work it, it was only 6 months. If it does work out…. we can extend!
It is time for me to take the crazy out!
I thought I would blog about my experience, the good, the bad and the ugly. It may just help you to decide that it would work for your family, or cement the fact that it definitely would not.
Next post: Finding our Au Pair
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